I enjoyed my commentary’s focus on how Jacob’s character was
developed through his trials in this chapter.
“With Jacob, marriage wasn’t an option;
it was an obligation. The success of the covenant promises God gave
to Abraham depended on Jacob’s finding
a wife and with her, building a family … that would bring the promised Redeemer
into the world.”
Jacob’s sighting of Rachel at the well wasn’t “a fortunate
coincidence” as the world might say, but a divine
appointment. God used his attraction
to her to initiate His plans for His covenant promises. He was so enamored with Rachel that he never
noticed that his future father-in-law made
NO promise that he would give
Rachel to Jacob at the end of his promised service.
Strangely, we see a father hurting his own daughter (Rachel)
to fulfill his own schemes at the wedding.
And how awkward that next day must have been for Jacob, not to mention
having to complete his marital duties during the marriage week, wanting only to be with the woman he really loved, yet having to instead spend bedroom time with her sister!
Yet in that culture, the bride’s father controlled. Jacob “meekly accepted his lot and went back to work for another seven years,”
but celebrated his second honeymoon
the following week! “Little by little,
Jacob was learning to submit to God’s
loving hand of discipline and was growing in faith and character.”
Laban didn’t realize the “the Lord was ruling and overruling
in the entire event. ‘There is no wisdom, no might, no plan that can
succeed against the Lord.’” Through it
all, God was producing the beginnings of the twelve tribes of Israel – building
a nation from which the Redeemer
would come. And God saw Jacob’s heart – that he naturally loved Rachel more than Leah,
and He balanced things out by making Leah fertile (building the family,
including the line of Judah from
her), while Rachel couldn’t conceive. If
nothing else, that kept Jacob doing his marital duties, through which the redeemer
would come, even though his heart and affections were elsewhere.
More evidence of Jacob’s spiritual growth come from this as “Leah
and Rachel treated Jacob like a servant
and used him as a pawn in their family bargaining, and he patiently bore with it,” my commentary said.
Father, help me to see Your hand working in my own
family. Show me how to help my sons see
Your sovereignty in their own lives, even when they seem unwilling to let You
lead. I want them to grow to depend on
You and not on themselves.
Your Brother In Christ,
Gary Ford